“I can’t stand this anymore…” said I.
He kept looking at me. I knew he tried his best for the past few weeks to keep up our friendship but I refused cooperating, I wanted to end this all.
“Tell me, what I should do?” asked him.
“I’ve told you, I don’t like the way you treat me. You nag around like you’re the one who knows it all. I don’t like it, you’re a man but you nag more often than me.” Actually, that wasn’t the biggest problem.
“Ha-ha. Hey! Relax! I knew that, I was just teasing you!” said him, and I know it was true. He liked to tease me just because he thought I was funny when I was mad, but again, that wasn’t the main problem.
“I knew it exactly, and I don’t like you teasing me.” Said I persistently.
“Well,” he smiled again. I always wonder why he can smile in this kind of situation. This wasn’t the first time we fight but he always can behave calmer and wiser than me. “Adel… you should take things easier.”
“Well, I’ve tried to,” again, persistently. No matter what, I should end this. There was something more than nagging-around problem, “but I’d better don’t do that this time.”
“Why?” I also wonder why he kept asking things, but I like this kind of personality. Sometimes, he used to try to make everything’s clear.
“***, you know I have lots of things to complaint to you.”
“Yes, you want me to behave like a man, I knew that exactly, but… hey, please don’t be like this, I was just kidding! Ha-ha. Enjoy your life!” he laughed lightly as he wished I could smile with him and be relax, but I couldn’t.
“You also know that we fight more than anyone,”
“Well, you’re not only thoughtful, but also perfectionist. I knew that, and that’s not a problem for me. We’re friends, close friends… Just…okay, I’ll change, promise.”
“***, that’s not the main problem…”
“So, tell me. We both know, communication is needed in every single relationship. That’s the key, right? So, tell me. I’m listening.”
“I wanna ask you, do you know why I get angry easily to you?” asked I as I try to make the situation clear.
“Yah… because you think I make mistakes.”
“Why do I have to care about your mistakes very often? Why do you think I paid that much attention?”
“Yah… I don’t know. Maybe…you…I don’t know…” he had his doubt this time. I could feel it from the way his words blurred.
“…it’s because I like you…”
We both knew that this wasn’t good. He started to see my point of view, and I could see it from his face that he was uneasy. He belongs to someone else, he belongs to a woman that he’s in love with and loves him. They were both serious about the relationship, and I don’t wanna mess with them.
“This should be ended.” I declared my point once again.
“Well, I…”
I was amazed… This was the first time, after we become close friends for more than a year, for me to see his doubtful, uneasy, and shocked face of him. This was the first time that quarrelsome guy for not replying my argument.
“You see, I become emotional every time I talk with you and in addition, you get me to be emotional by making me mad. This is unhealthy, this should be stopped. I can’t be your close friend anymore…I’m sorry.”
“Well, I… I can do nothing then.” What? I couldn’t believe this. That quarrelsome didn’t make any argument. Actually, deep in my heart, I was still hoping that he would choose to keep up our relationship, but I also realized that it was impossible and wasn’t good at all. “Just, thanks for being my friend. You were a close friend of mine. I need you…really, I liked it when we shared things. Well, I couldn’t find any friend as fine as you, but…”
I could see it from his face that he absolutely agreed with me. This should be ended.
I was just freeze and say nothing.
“Thank you…” he said, and that was the day. The day he went away…outta my life, because I wanted him to and he agreed.
Few months later, I heard that he was married. He married the woman that he swore he was in love with forever. He told me himself once, that this woman would be the last woman in his life. He was serious then.
“Are you okay?” asked one of my friends.
“Of course. What are you thinking about? That quarrelsome… we should be happy for him, right?” said I indifferently.
Now, oh God…how I miss him…how I need him…I got a problem now. Kind of problems that I would share to him and ask him for advices if he was here. Now I have no one to talk to. I need him, God… If only he was here, it should be very helpful.
I used to come to him directly and tell him everything. I tell him how I don’t like this, don’t like that. Then he would tell me that it was common, everybody should face the same problem. Then he told me the good and bad condition, the views, the solutions, so I can decide things clearly and well.
I laughed when he gave me jokes, I told him when he made mistakes and vice versa, we shared point of view, I told him what I don’t like, and what a man should become. What was more enchanting is, every time I stated that women are better than men, he would smile sincerely and answered, “Yes, they are.”
Anyway, he should be happy now with his new family, away from here: the place where I write this and feel so helpless. I miss him. I need him…
(written on Sunday, June 21, 2009)